Being in love is the most astonishing feeling in the world. Nothing compares to that emotion, that sense that your heart is finally beating for the first time, that intensely tremendous need to be with another human being. Love makes you see things clearly while blinding you into oblivion. The urgency of its passion makes you feel as if anything is possible and that no one and nothing else in the universe means more than your love right now, at this moment. It enlightens and inspires and makes you feel alive. It is beautiful and amazing, and it is worth every single painful moment that follows.
Falling in love is a temporary emotion, one aptly named for the uncontrollable feeling of tumbling toward something, an influence of which you have no power to stop. It is unbelievably exciting as you are falling, extraordinarily pleasurable to float through the air for a moment. Then one day, when you least expect it, you hit the ground.
Romantic love, Eros, is one of the most exquisite things we get to experience, but it cannot last forever. Reality eventually crashes down, and when it does, the intensity of the crash often equals that of the fall.
When the crash happens, we have two choices to make. We can get up, check the damage, and make repairs, or we can get up and walk away. Pragmatic love requires more than just emotion. In order to experience love in the long-term, it takes patience and kindness and an ability to let your self go and to accept someone else fully. Sometimes the decision is easy. Perhaps the crash was not as injurious as first believed, and the couple will both want to put forth the effort required to continue a mutually beneficial and loving relationship. Sometimes, no matter how badly you want it and how many repairs you try to make, it just does not work.
That quote about how it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all was clearly brought to life by someone who basked in the reflective afterglow of its meaning, but only following the suffering of that loss. If you have ever loved and lost, you know all too well that sensation of literal heartbreak; that incredibly, heavy, painful, destroying feeling in your chest that happens only when you know it is truly over.
While the sensation can feel as if you will actually die, you know that you will not. You know that you will somehow pick yourself up. You know that you will move on.
You know that one day, you will be in love again, and that the next time it will become something more than just a superficial emotion.
3 comments:
I don't think I see it quite as 'dramatic'. To me it's just a body response, very human and yeah, great until it's great. But if u think about it, as long as u learn something from it, it'll not have been in vain... right?
Lya
Perhaps only dramatic people such as myself feel so intensely. I believe that no feeling of love is in vain. Every person we encounter in our lives teaches us something about relationships, and something about our selves. We only need to be open to loving and learning. We cannot grow without these lessons.
I think it is a very dramatic feeling. Your body yearns to be needed and wanted all of the time. i just LOVE your blog; absolute words of wisdom. Please check out my blog: http://thelifeofateenageoutcast.blogspot.com/
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